Have you ever felt like a total weirdo trying to have a spiritual conversation with someone?
A couple of years ago I was having lunch with a coworker, we’d been working together for some time and I wanted to share my faith with her.
It was the first time we had spent any time outside of work and I wanted to take advantage of the opportunity.
But as soon as we sat down to eat I got stage fright. I suddenly became hyper insecure.
But I didn’t want to throw in the towel, so I pressed forward.
I asked her if she had a mission in life, something bigger than herself that she was passionate about. She said she hadn’t really thought about it, and then turned the question to me.
“What are you passionate about?”
Here it was. A softball lobbed right over the center of the plate, ready for me to smack a home run into center field.
And I bombed!
I was totally tongue-tied, super nervous, just self-conscious, just I just felt weird. It was a super awkward conversation that we never revisited after that.
Now I’m guessing many of you can relate to that. Many of you can relate to the feeling of sharing your faith with someone or wanting to share your faith with someone. And just feeling really self-conscious about it.
It so easy to start thinking, “How am I coming across?” “Am I doing a good job?” “Am I doing a serviceable job of trying to convince someone to follow God or to come to church with me?”
Don’t worry! This is a universal thing. But there is a little trick that you can use to help you for the next time.
Think about something else that you love and record yourself talking about it.
If you have an iPhone you can use the Voice Memos app (there are similar apps for Android devices as well) to record yourself talking and listen back to it.
Record yourself talking about something you love that’s not God. It could be a movie that you enjoy, a favorite food, a vacation you remember fondly, or your favorite sports team.
As you start talking about it you’ll feel this natural sense of excitement and passion. You won’t be thinking about saying the perfect thing, you’ll just enjoy talking about what you like.
Now here’s how that helps you share your faith without feeling awkward:
Instead of approaching sharing your faith like a door-to-door salesman, use the same approach you would if you were trying to convince a friend to join you in doing something you love.
Here’s an example of how this could sound:
“Hey, I want to tell you about something I’m really, really excited about. So I don’t know if you know, but I’m a Christian. I’ve been a Christian for a while and I go to this incredible church.
I mean, the people there are so authentic, they’re so genuine, and their love for each other is amazing. Every time I go, I feel like I’m being reunited with my best friends.
And in fact, most of my best friends go to church with me, which is crazy because I don’t see that in many other churches. And so I want you to come with me. I know that you’re not really big into God, not really into the whole Christian religion thing, but I’m telling you like there’s something really cool about this church. Just come one time.
Just come one time with me. We’ll go grab lunch afterward. I’ll take you to a burger spot that I really love around the corner. You only have to come once and if you don’t like it, you don’t have to come back. But I’m telling you, this place is incredible.”
Now, how did that sound? Did that sound weird? Did that sound forced? Hopefully not.
Just imagine how incredible it will be when you won’t feel as self-conscious when you share your faith. When it’s authentic to who you are and you don’t feel the pressure of trying to put on a show, all of a sudden sharing your faith isn’t as intimidating anymore.
Grab your phone. Record yourself talking about why you love Hawaiian pizza (or something else that you love) and imitate that approach the next time you talk to someone about God.
You got this!